The decision to re-marry after divorce is a serious one, because the possibility of failure increases by about 10 percent. i.e. from 50% to 60%. Children are the main issue. But more importantly, any issues in our first marriages will revisit us in our second marriage. So us who have been through divorce have to work at understanding our own roles in the divorce and address those as best as possible.

Counseling is a good option if you can find a counselor with whom you are both comfortable. There is also an excellent program offered in churches called Divorce Care which goes over the normal issues every divorced person encounters. I have both done that and facilitated that and I recommend the content. My posts on the How and Why of Premarital counseling gives some good free as well as fee based resources.

All that to say that I commend you for being willing to do some work before the final I Do. It is worth the expense and effort in order make your new marriage strong and satisfying.